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Question:
Lately, I’ve been noticing something kind of confusing. Whenever I feel really present, connected, or joyful—like things are actually going well—something inside me pulls back. It’s like I suddenly get anxious, or old negative thoughts and habits show up.

It almost feels like there’s a limit to how much goodness I can let in before I start shutting it down. Does this happen to other people too? And how do you work with that?

My Response:
I’ve been there too. I used to wonder what was wrong with me—why I’d start doubting, worrying, or even sabotaging things the moment life felt soft and full.

What I’ve come to see is that there’s often a part of us, shaped by past experiences, that believes too much joy or love might not be safe. That part wants to protect us from disappointment. So, it speaks up in the only way it knows—through doubt, fear, or old patterns.

Instead of pushing those voices away, I’ve learned to meet them gently. I try to pause and notice what’s happening, without getting caught up in the story. Sometimes, I’ll place a hand on my heart and say something like, “I know you’re trying to keep me safe.” That small act of kindness helps me stay connected instead of shutting down.

And when it feels like too much, I try to make a mindful choice to care for myself. That might be grounding my body, doing a little yoga, sitting with my breath, or talking to someone who really sees me. These simple things help me reconnect to the part of me that can receive love and joy.

Wherever you are in your journey, I hope this space can be a soft landing—a place where you don’t have to be perfect, where your experience is valid, and where you can gently grow your capacity to receive.

提問：
老師，我最近有一個困惑。我發現自己每次感覺到很多愛、喜悅或是很有存在感的時候，內心反而會開始有點慌，會不自覺地想逃避，或是開始出現一些老舊的負面想法和習慣。好像我心裡有個上限，不太允許自己感受太多的好。

不知道這樣的狀況常見嗎？其他人也會這樣嗎？我可以怎麼跟這種感覺相處呢？

我的回應：
謝謝你的提問，我自己也曾經有過這樣的感受。以前我常常懷疑自己，為什麼當一切看起來都很好時，心裡反而會出現焦慮、懷疑，甚至開始破壞這份美好？

後來我慢慢發現，這其實是我們內在某個部分在保護我們。也許在過去的經驗裡，喜悅或愛沒有帶來好結果，所以那個「保護的聲音」會在我們感覺幸福時跳出來說：「小心點，這不會持久。」

現在我不會再試著把那些負面想法趕走，而是輕輕地去「看見它們」，但不跟它們認同。我會給自己一點空間，有時甚至會對心裡那個擔心的聲音說：「我知道你是為我好，想保護我。」

當這些感受變得太強烈，我會有意識地做一些滋養自己的事：像是腳踏地面做個簡單的穩定練習、伸展幾分鐘瑜伽、靜靜地跟著呼吸，或是找一位我信任的人聊聊。

我希望這個空間能給你一點支持與安全感。你不孤單，我們可以一起在這個空間學著怎麼接納愛。