分享一下我最近很喜歡的作者，Stephanie Foo, 以及她非常擅長使用IFS/人際歷程/好奇的諮詢師, Dr. Jacob Ham。Dr. Jacob Ham在訪談之中，分享了一段讓我很感動的部分

I love Stephanie Foo's New book, what my bone's know, and her therapist, Dr. Jacob Ham. He was sharing something that moved me in the following podcast with Dan Harris:

https://podcasts.apple.com/tw/podcast/ten-percent-happier-with-dan-harris/id1087147821?i=1000561923701

52:30分鐘

如何面對自己內在（或是孩子內在）的綠巨人浩克？A: 先讓他知道我們對他的敬意。你會這樣，因為你知道我需要你。我知道你這麼愛我, 你願意毀掉全世界來保護我。然後你說，我有其他的想法，我們可以試試看，你可以接受嗎？

讓他感到有力量（empowered)，讓他覺得我們在一個合作的關係中。而不是是一種對立，壓制的關係中。

At 52:30 mark, Dr. Ham shared how to face our inner “Hulk.”
He said it is important to let him know how much we respect him.
That part of us turns into the Hulk because he believes we need protection.
We can say to him,
“I know you love me so much that you are willing to destroy the whole world to protect me.”

Then we can invite him to try different ways to handle the situation,
and ask if he would be open to giving them a try.

It is important to empower the Hulk and help him realize we are in a cooperative relationship,
not one of opposition or control.

覺察到自己的想法，然後有意識的為自己做決定，是件多美好的事啊！讓我們更敞開心胸，看見自己的想法吧！

It is such a wonderful thing to be aware of our own thought and make a decision for ourselves. Let's expend our heart and make space for our observation!