How not to lose ourselves: deep reflection on life and inner values 如何不迷失自己: 反思自己的生活和內在的價值

Caroline Chang | FEB 13, 2024

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In my recent yoga teacher gathering, a former classmate shared a series of touching stories that prompted deep reflection on my own life and inner values. It's truly remarkable to think that we've been companions since we embarked on our yoga teacher certification journey together fourteen years ago. Despite the passage of time, our connection remains strong, and our meetings are still filled with that sense of closeness.

During this gathering, one of our companions shared the news that she was planning to move from Los Angeles to Georgia. She looked back on her forty years in Los Angeles, and her story deeply moved us. She mentioned how she had worked at IBM and, in order to support her children, had set aside her own dreams and needs. Now, she's taking this step once again, hoping not to lose herself in the process.

The experience of not wanting to lose oneself is profoundly multi-layered, and it left me pondering deeply after the meeting.

I've distilled three key realizations:

1. Firstly, embracing the decisions we made at those times is essential. Recognizing the significance of those choices we made in pursuit of our inner calling, even when we felt we lost ourselves, is important. When we couldn't offer ourselves enough self-love in the present, we might have felt disheartened about our circumstances. However, understanding the importance of those past decisions and taking responsibility for them is part of our growth.

2. Secondly, having a clear awareness of what we need and desire. Sometimes, we know our needs, but we might not know how to fulfill them in specific ways. This requires dedicating time to explore and grow, to understand ourselves better, and to find the rhythm that suits us best.

3. Lastly, never forgetting our true essence. Regardless of the roles we assume, whether as mothers, grandmothers, teachers, or employees, we should never become engulfed by those roles. We should always be able to see ourselves, know what plans we are currently pursuing, fulfill our own values, and return to the core of our vitality. Only then can we truly find happiness and inner peace.

peace and always love,

Caroline

上一個瑜伽老師聚會中,以前同學分享了一個接一個感人的故事,讓我深刻地反思了自己的生活和內在的價值。不禁讓我驚嘆,我們已經是十四年前一起參加瑜伽老師認證的夥伴,還時常撥空聚會,時間沒有轉移我們彼此見面時,互相感到的親密。 在這個聚會中,一位夥伴告訴我們她決定即將從洛杉磯搬到喬治亞州的消息。她回顧四十年在洛杉磯的經歷,讓我們深受觸動。

她說,她曾在IBM工作,為了養活孩子,他放棄了自己的夢想和需求。再走一次,他希望不再失去自己。 多麼深刻的體驗啊,不想失去自己,這個多層次的情感和心靈狀態。

我聚會後,深深思考著這個部分。然後歸納了三點我的體會

1. 首先,接納自己當時的決定。我們為了心中的追求,失去自己,這樣子接納當時決定的重要性。當我們無法給予自己當下足夠的愛,我們可能對自己的現狀感到沮喪,但清楚這個決定,為自己負責,這也是我們成長的一部分。

2. 其次,清楚知道自己需要什麼,渴望什麼。有時候,我們知道自己的需求,但無法以特定的方式滿足它們,這就需要我們花時間尋找可以給予自己的方法,不斷地探索和成長。更了解自己,找尋適合自己的步調行走。

3. 最後,不忘記自己真實的本性。無論我們擔任母親、奶奶、老師還是員工,我們都不應該陷入自己的角色中。我們應該隨時可以看見自己,知道自己現在正在進行的計畫,能夠滿足自己的價值,並時刻回到生命力的核心。只有這樣,我們才能真正獲得快樂和內在的平靜。

祝福

Caroline

Caroline Chang | FEB 13, 2024

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