也許，我們一直都用錯了衡量療癒的方式

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Maybe This Is What Healing Looks Like

I loved our conversation in Monday's class.

One of our students asked: "How do I let go of an old scar?"

Not a scar on the body. A scar from the past. A painful memory that still visits sometimes.

Maybe you know that feeling too.

Something small reminds you of what happened. A familiar ache returns. And almost before you can catch it, another voice appears —

"I thought I had already worked through this." "Why is this still here?" "I should be further along by now."

What Are We Actually Measuring?

As we explored her question together, I noticed something.

So many of us measure our healing by what no longer happens.

I'll know I'm doing better when the memory no longer hurts. When I stop feeling angry. When it just… doesn't come back anymore.

It sounds so reasonable.

But what if we've been measuring the wrong thing?

What if the real milestone isn't "I didn't get triggered"…

but "I noticed I was triggered"?

The Moment Everything Shifts

That might sound like a small difference.

But it is fundamentally different.

Because the moment you notice —

"I feel hurt right now." "I notice the urge to push this away." "I notice I'm judging myself for feeling this."

— you are no longer completely lost inside it.

Something in you has stepped back just enough to notice.

That is not failure. That is the victory.

Awareness has entered the room. And awareness… is already freedom beginning.

What You Are Really Remembering

Every time you notice the old pattern returning, and something in you recognizes it, even for a moment, you are remembering something deeper than the habit.

You are remembering that there is a part of you that can witness it all.

In Buddhism, we might call this our Buddha nature. Not something we have to build or earn. Something we are slowly remembering, one moment of noticing at a time.

There's a line from A Course in Miracles I love returning to: "Light and joy and peace abide in me."

Those words are not a promise that we'll never struggle.

They are a reminder that beneath every old wound, every familiar reaction, every moment of "not again" — something whole has never left.

It has always been here.

A Different Question to Ask Yourself

So perhaps this week, instead of asking "Did I get triggered?"

you might try asking: "Did I notice?"

And if the answer is yes —

Pause for a moment. Take a breath. And let yourself feel that as something worth celebrating.

Because maybe freedom doesn't begin when we stop getting triggered.

Maybe it begins the moment we notice that we have been.

A Gentle Reflection

How have you been measuring your own progress lately?

And what might shift if you began to celebrate awareness… instead of waiting for perfection?

If this resonated with you, feel free to pass it along to someone who might need to hear it today. 🌿

And if you'd like to practice together, you're warmly invited to join our weekly classes at zitamae.com/offerings.

May we be a little less harsh with ourselves,
and a little more willing to trust and appreciate
the one who is slowly awakening.

也許，這就是療癒的樣子

我很喜歡我們週一課堂上的一段對話。

其中一位學生問了一個問題：「我要怎麼放下舊傷？」

不是身體上的傷。

而是過去留下的痕跡。

一段以為已經走過，卻偶爾還會悄悄浮現的記憶。

也許你也有過這樣的時刻。

某件小事提醒了你曾經發生的事。一種熟悉的疼痛回來了。而幾乎在你還來不及反應之前，另一個聲音已經出現：

「我以為我已經走過這段了。」

「為什麼它還在？」

「我應該早就好了吧。」

我們究竟在衡量什麼？

陪著她一起探索這個問題時，我注意到一件事。

很多人其實一直都在用同一個標準衡量自己的療癒。

當它不再發生，我就好了。

當那段記憶不再痛。當我不再生氣。當我再也不會被觸發。

這樣想，好像很合理。

可是……如果我們一直都量錯了呢？

如果真正值得慶祝的，不是：

「我沒有被牽動。」

而是：

「我注意到，我被勾起來了。」

一切開始改變的那一刻

乍聽之下，好像只是很小的差別。

但其實，完全不同。

因為當你注意到：

「我現在受傷了。」

「我注意到自己想趕快把這個感覺推開。」

「我注意到，我正在責怪自己怎麼又變成這樣。」

就在那一刻，你已經不再完全困在那個情緒裡。

你心裡有一個部分，悄悄退後了一步。

只是一步。卻已經足夠開始看見。

那不是失敗。

那是勝利。

因為，覺察已經走進來了。

而每一次覺察，就是自由開始的地方。

你真正發現的是什麼？

每一次，當舊有的模式又出現，而你注意到了它。

每一次，你發現自己的抗拒、自己的渴望、自己的評判。

哪怕只有短短一瞬間。

你都不是退步。

你是在連結一個比這些反應更深的自己。

佛法稱它為佛性。

不是需要修出來的。

也不是努力賺來的。

而是，

我們一點一滴，

慢慢體驗到它原本就在。

《奇蹟課程》裡有一句我很喜歡的話：

「光明、喜悅與平安住在我心中。」

這句話不是說我們以後就不會再受傷。

這句話是一個提醒。

提醒我們在每一道舊傷下面，在每一個熟悉的反應下面，

甚至在每一個「怎麼又來了？」的時刻下面，

始終都有一個完整的自己。

而那個完整的自己從來沒有離開。

這週，試著問自己另一個問題

不要急著問：

「今天我有沒有被牽動？」

試著問：

「今天，我有沒有注意到？」

如果答案是：

有。

那就停一下。

深呼吸。

讓自己知道，這是一件值得慶祝的事。

因為也許自由不是從那個感覺不再來的那一天開始。

而是從我們注意到自己被勾起的那一刻，就已經開始了。

一個溫柔的好奇

你最近是用什麼來衡量自己的成長？

如果開始慶祝每一次的覺察，而不是等待完美，會有什麼不同？

如果這篇文章觸動了你，歡迎把它分享給身邊可能需要這些話的人。🌿

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願我們對自己少一點苛責，

多一點信任與欣賞，

因為那個正在慢慢醒來的自己，

一直都在。